Don't blame the new victim!

It is funny how some women have this honey moon like relationship with their exes after their divorce (Hey, I had one of those). Must of the time these are the children of divorced parents that don’t want their kids to go through what they went through.
One day this wonderful man and father that they divorced for a reason, starts a new relationship and also starts, let’s say…. forgetting to call the kids. Not that he called that often before, but it goes from once a month, maybe, to every four months, to none at all.
What puzzles me is that automatically the new lady in his life gets blamed for it. Come on ladies… That new person in his life is just a victim! The person that is going to deal with what you left. Poor lady!
Think about it... Did he ever really and honestly care about the kids? Where was he on the first day of school? To how many play dates, parks, and libraries did he take the kids on his days off? Yeah, it was his day off but he was probably too tired to take you guys out. Did he by any chance find some magical source of energy when his siblings, friends or boss called? He was always up to anything then. Sounds familiar?
Well, forget Ms. New Lady she is not at fault at all. You are the only one to blame for marrying the jerk in the first place. Enjoy your kids as much as you can because they are the best, and probably the only thing, you got out of it besides experience. Try to make them as happy as you can avoiding to bad mouth the other person. Yes, it is not easy at all but one day Mr. Not So Wonderful will have some explanation to do. Maybe that day your kids will be the only people he can turn to.
Must importantly, It is hard to forgive when is our children that you are seeing hurt but you have to do it and teach them the same. Forgiveness is nothing but a gift you get from God. Forgiveness gives you freedom and enables you to raise your children in a healthier environment. Enjoy!